My head still hurts. But not quite as bad. Make not to self, must never drink black label johnny walker again. I think I am allergic to wheat products. Since I have been living in the philippines since bread is of such poor quality I have stopped eating bread. I noticed after that my allergies cleared up. I also notice that if I drink real brandy I do not get as bad of a hang over. So my theory is I must be allergic to grain products. That is why the scotch caused me to feel so sick, and have such a bad hang over.
Anyway maybe day was not so bad after all. Since my wife ran away with my son back to her parents house in manila I have been on an emotional roller coaster. It has been almost 3 months. Since that time all we have done is threaten each other with lawyers etc. Anyway I finally determined that one of the big problems is that her family keeps on interfering. It is really complex with her family, they never really wanted me and my wife to get married in the first place. Her mother is the big problem, and she has always been causing problems between us. So as a result when I would go to manila to try and see my wife and son, the family would not allow me to see her.
I was really depressed this morning. My head hurt and I missed my wife a lot. I was pretty much thinking that my marriage was over. It gets really annoying when everyone tries to set me up with someone else. It is hard to explain, but no other woman is not my wife. Anyway out of desperation I decided to try and send her a bunch of SMS about how much I miss her and how lonely I am without her.
I then tried to call her cell like 4 times but she kept on hanging up. So I did not know what to do. I then texted another friend of mine. She was in a similar situation as me, but kind of reversed. As in she was the one that was angry at her husband and ran away. But when I went out last night I found out after 2 months of being seperated that they where back together again. I was really surprised since the last time I talked to her she was mad as heck at her husband and trying to sue him. So I asked her what she recommeneded. She said "Maybe your wife just want you to make a move to win her back. Girls are like that mostly". So I felt a little bit better. Maybe no all is lost.
Anyway just before supper I decided to try and call her one more time. I have tried lots of times in the 3 months to call before. But to no success. The few times we had talked on the phone we just argued. But then I determined that she was purposely doing things that she knew would make me upset. Another friend of mine told me that women do things like that. So I remembered that I need to avoid that trap. I did not realize that women where so devious.
To my surprise she actually answered the phone. She sounded really cautious when she first picked up the phone and did not want to talk to me. Every time she tried to steer the conversation to a dangerous place, I just said I do not want to talk about it. I just told her how much I missed her. Big issue with my wife is that she used to be really fat, like 190lb when she left. I guess she lost a lot of wieght, like 30lb. I told her it never mattered that she was fat. She kept on thinking I was having sex with other women. I told her the truth that most other women where boring compared to her. You talk to them for like 30 minutes and then you are bored to tears. She said that she could understand why I would want to have sex with other women since she was so big. I told her that was never important to me. I said the biggest thing I missed was just talking to her. She then wondered who I was talking to. Lots of people I know, just no one I can have a proper conversation with like her.
We worked out a lot of issues. And she was saying how much she had learned from me while we where married. She then made jokes about how crazy her mother was. She then stated that maybe we just where ment to be friends, and since the annulment will take 3 years, we have to learn how to get allong together in that time. As they say, friends today, lovers tommorrow.
I think that my wife does not want me to see her again till she has lost a lot of weight. Also once we are talking again we can work things out, we both had a lot of issues. We both where trying to control each others lives, so we just need to be more understanding. Maybe she will let me visit her in manila this next weekend I will see.
So a bad day, turned out not to be so bad after all. Even if my head still hurts :).
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